No Sleep Til’ Union: #NaturalHair
Maybe if I had this much hair.
To relax or not to relax, that is the question. I have been growing my hair out for over a year now, in anticipation of my wedding. I didn’t grow out my relaxer to make a stand or statement. I grew it out because my hair without a relaxer grows faster than it does with a relaxer. I have to see a hair dresser every two to three weeks with a relaxer in order to sustain the growth I do with natural hair and I don’t really know anyone with the time or the funds to do that. Actually, that’s not true, I know plenty of people with the time and money, I am just not one of them. Anyhow, I haven’t had a relaxer in over a year. Around Easter, I allowed a nice, young Dominican woman to relieve me of all my relaxed ends. I didn’t “big chop” necessarily, because I had about ear/top of neck length hair that has given me more than the standard TWA, but I did cut off all my relaxed hair.
If I had to guess, my hair probably grazes the nape of my neck in back. Maybe hits my cheek in front. I have achieved a lot of growth in a short amount of time. But now, I have to decide whether or not to keep this up, or just throw some creamy crack in the mix. The funny thing is, the growth process wasn’t ever about having my hair long enough to wear alone on my wedding day. I want BEYONCE WEAVE. I don’t think you ready for this jelly weave. Ring the weave alarm. I just wanted long enough hair in the front to blend without looking crazy, or making me have to have bangs. I have enjoyed the freedom of natural hair…somewhat. But it’s a BUTT LOAD of work. I don’t know how I can manage. Someone recently suggested that I do a twist out and a giant flower in my hair for the ceremony, and then submit my pics to a natural hair blog to be featured. Apparently, women with natural hair love to see it paired with a wedding dress. I can’t imagine wearing it out because September in Cleveland can still be very hot and humid. I want stress free hair, whether its straight or curly. I can’t imagine trying to maintain perfect twist out shaped curls with the possibility of uncooperative weather.
Anyhow, suggest to me wedding day hair styles, both relaxed and natural. What do you think? What will you have on your big day?
If you wear a weave, what kind? Like real long? Wavy?, Bone straight?
I’m thinking stay natural for the wedding, I think you have a strong face (in a good way) and long hair might overpower that.
nah, I am just kidding about Beyonce length. I just probably want it a bit past my shoulders and layered. I want it in a low bun for the ceremony actually, so that I can wear a veil. I actually look better without an overwhelming amount of length, you’re right.
Take a shit load of pictures with the weave and natural, let your heart (and bm Crys) decide which one works better. Either way, I know you will look beautiful. And yes I am dick riding the fuck outta Cara!
LOL thanks Jehonica. I appreciate the dick riding.
Whatever you choose, you will be beautiful. I am natural but I straightened my hair for my wedding, but it is just hair and you should do what will make you happy and Stress FREE!
Right. That’s what I am going for. I want something done to my hair that I don’t have to worry about all day. That’s why I really want a weave, because it has no connection to my sweaty scalp lol
It’s funny I am actually writing a post on this. I am seeing a lot more natural styles being worn on the big day but I am on the fence. Why not a sew-in instead of a full relaxer? Congrats on your upcoming wedding!
I’m natural as well and have been for 4 years (next month). I can’t see myself ever getting a relaxer. I know some people who use texturizers instead of perms when they get to a point where their natural hair becomes difficult to manage than they want it to be.
Maybe you could get your hair straightened.. or perhaps where a high bun. Buns are my go to during the summer months when it’s entirely too hot to wear my hair straight. I also like the idea of twists. .. in a bun. (See, I love buns.)
This is SO far out of my area of expertise because im lazy/didnt have a wedding but I say pick the least frustrating way. The last thing you want to stress about is your hair. Whatever is prettiest/easiest wins!
Im not pro baby mostly because i have no idea how people have more than two. I think id die of exhaustion BUT youre looking really good these days. All days but you know what I mean.