No Sleep Til’ Union: #NaturalHair
To relax or not to relax, that is the question. I have been growing my hair out for over a year now, in anticipation of my wedding. I didn’t grow out my relaxer to make a stand or statement. I grew it out because my hair without a relaxer grows faster than it does with a relaxer. I have to see a hair dresser every two to three weeks with a relaxer in order to sustain the growth I do with natural hair and I don’t really know anyone with the time or the funds to do that. Actually, that’s not true, I know plenty of people with the time and money, I am just not one of them. Anyhow, I haven’t had a relaxer in over a year. Around Easter, I allowed a nice, young Dominican woman to relieve me of all my relaxed ends. I didn’t “big chop” necessarily, because I had about ear/top of neck length hair that has given me more than the standard TWA, but I did cut off all my relaxed hair.
If I had to guess, my hair probably grazes the nape of my neck in back. Maybe hits my cheek in front. I have achieved a lot of growth in a short amount of time. But now, I have to decide whether or not to keep this up, or just throw some creamy crack in the mix. The funny thing is, the growth process wasn’t ever about having my hair long enough to wear alone on my wedding day. I want BEYONCE WEAVE. I don’t think you ready for this jelly weave. Ring the weave alarm. I just wanted long enough hair in the front to blend without looking crazy, or making me have to have bangs. I have enjoyed the freedom of natural hair…somewhat. But it’s a BUTT LOAD of work. I don’t know how I can manage. Someone recently suggested that I do a twist out and a giant flower in my hair for the ceremony, and then submit my pics to a natural hair blog to be featured. Apparently, women with natural hair love to see it paired with a wedding dress. I can’t imagine wearing it out because September in Cleveland can still be very hot and humid. I want stress free hair, whether its straight or curly. I can’t imagine trying to maintain perfect twist out shaped curls with the possibility of uncooperative weather.
Anyhow, suggest to me wedding day hair styles, both relaxed and natural. What do you think? What will you have on your big day?