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So on the twitters, right at this very second folks are discussing cursing at their children. I am weighing in here, because 140 characters sometimes cannot contain my fury…but why the fuck would you curse at your kids, b? For what? Can you not express your thoughts, actions, and desires to them without foul language? I don’t swear at or around the twins. If you know me, you know I swear EVERYWHERE ELSE. Especially twitter, actually. I feel like everywhere else aside from in the presence of my children is when I get to let out all my curses. And that’s fine, because once again…why would you want or need to swear at your children?

Do you just get so angry that you have to ask your kid WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU TOUCHING THE TELEVISION SCREEN AGAIN? That sentence means the same exact thing when you remove “the fuck”…you know that right? So your uncontained fury can still reach your school age child without you having to use words that could get you removed from a court room. I guess some folks never learned that while cursing is flavorful, and tangy, it’s not necessary. I DO know that, though, because I grew up in a home where I wasn’t cursed at. My mother and my step father didn’t swear AT ALL. Even when they argued with one another, there were rarely foul words used. They sometimes yelled…but never did they swear. I don’t think I heard them curse, intentionally, to one another until I was at least 17. And by then, I was of course, swearing like a sailor with my own friends…but mostly because I chose to. I know it was a choice, because as soon as I got home, I wasn’t swearing in my conversations there. I would never ever swear at home. I am almost 30 years old, and I have my own children and a heterosexual life partner and on the off chance I say a swear word AROUND my mother, I call her and apologize later. I also was able to communicate while in school, at work and in other environments where cursing was frowned upon without slip ups, or accidents where I swore at anyone. In ALL my years of working, I never once swore at a client or customer. And to be honest, rarely just felt the desire to litter strong verbal interaction with swear words, because I knew enough other, more acceptable words to use to get my message across.

I think it’s disrespectful to swear at your children. Not only are you disrespecting them, but you’re disrespecting yourself and your home. You are doing a disservice to the home you built, by not allowing yourself or your child the option of clean language. Expressing ourselves in this world, communicating…is SO important. Being able to do it everywhere, with everyone is phenomenal. Why would you set up camp in your child’s developing brain and litter it with words they won’t be able to say everywhere? Do you intend to teach them later to turn those words off? Do you intend to teach them to do as you say and not as you do, because you are the adult? That SEEMS like a smart idea…FOR ME TO POOP ON. Instead of hustling backwards, why wouldn’t you set up shop with clean, useful words and then allow them the option to discover the opposite and use them as they see fit? When you curse at your child, even if it’s not directly about them (i.e.; “hey Timmy, stop being a little bitch and get in the boat”) its embedding the words into their stream of consciousness and affecting the way they see and use words forever(i.e.; “Hey Timmy, can’t wait until we pull that bitch out onto the water and really open her up!).

I am not holier than thou. I get slip ups. I cook a lot, and I am clumsy as hell. About two months ago, I was removing a pizza from the oven, burned my wrist with hot cheese and completely flinched, spilling the pizza all over the open oven door. I yelled out “DAMNIT!” almost as soon as the cheese scalded my arm. In fact, nearly every time I burn myself in the kitchen, knick myself with a knife while chopping, or do any painful spilling, I let out a “damnit” under my breathe. As a result, we are battling with a 4 year old who yelled out “DAMNIT” at the baseball game we went to recently. I get that things like that HAPPEN…but deliberately swearing at your kids? Expressing disapproval, satisfaction, or conveying ANY emotion while using swear words? THAT’S FUCKING LAME, DOG. CUT THAT SHIT OUT.

Tags: Communication, Cursing, Cuss, Foul Language, Parents, Swearing